The Science of Happy!

The first question I would like to pose to you is "What is being happy". What would you define happiness as. My definition is to actively want to live. I am not saying that if you are not happy then you don't want to live, but instead you don't want to actively live. By actively I mean enjoying oneself in what they are doing at the moment. It is totally fine to not always, or even often be "actively" living, but the reason I am brining this up is someone asked me an interesting question today. They asked me if I am always happy. For those who do not know me well, I am very energetic and at least outwardly protrude happiness most of the time. The majority of the time when I am showing happiness on the outside I am really happy on the inside, but their are rare situations in which I am not. Going back to the question I have a firm and in my opinion correct answer to it, no. This should be the answer of everyone who has ever lived. The reason for this in my mind is that happiness is completely relative. You cannot know you are happy, unless you know what it feels to be not happy. Being happy all the time, as I like to generally think I am, also has the side effect of making it extremely hard for you to be happy. The reason for this is that if you are always happy in the eyes of society, then in your own eyes you are not happy, but normal. Due to happiness' relativity, what makes you happy can change dramatically. To quickly give a simple example of this imagine you get no chocolate for a year. The next year you get one chocolate each day. This makes you feel happy, but by the end of the year, on the 365th day the chocolate will have less meaning than the chocolate on the first day. Then the next year you get two chocolates a day, causing two chocolates to be normal. Now if the year after that you got only one chocolate a day you would feel sad, because you lost a chocolate despite feeling happy the first year you got one chocolate a day.

Now the true secret to happiness in my opinion is hard work both by you and those around you. To feel happy all the time you really have to work hard doing things you enjoy. You also have to surround yourself with other people who make you happy. By you giving love to them and them reciprocating it you create a system in which more and more love is given, to keep up with the growing amount of effort it takes to be truly happy. Along with this you do need times where it resets due to some event. This will put your

happiness in perspective, and will make you enjoy and work harder at getting it. Overall I truly believe being happy is the most important thing one can do, not only for themselves, but also for others because by being happy and understanding you can try to help everyone.

PS: I quickly want to add it is completely okay if you feel mad when others are happy, and it is not something you should feel bad about, instead I would suggest finding people who can reciprocate the love and passion that everyone feels.